Saturday 17 January 2015

Eh hi!

Sorry la so busy with the moving in and unknowingly had a few visitors thus by e end of the day, i LEPAK. Tonight ok promise.

Tuesday 13 January 2015

A whole new world-home

Nothing is more gratifying then opening the doors of your new home.

I was so excited i literally drew up like a floor plan for the reno works, i tell you i need to stop it.

A did the honours of meng-azankan rumah and i sat down just looking and listening at how nice his voice was when he was not annoying the beezeezus out of me.

So moving forward, we had a good 4hrs earlier today just lazing around eating packed food and enjoying the serenity of our new abode. It was a quiet neighbourhood. There was a lot of shops and eateries around which i LOVE. Eh there is also a wet market like 5mins walk away which i was super excited on. Must masak very important ah.

So tmr i gotta go down for the gas and utilities activations and what not and i have Siti to teman me which is always fun! Also need some scrubbing that house, berahabok kaki i.
Other than that, nothing much la kan.

Just taking it all in, one panic attack at a time. :)

Monday 12 January 2015

Memory of a lost and start to a new beginning.

12 January 2015.

Today was supposedly my EDD.

I would have probably be like over 39 weeks pregnant or maybe, just maybe, already given birth. 

Not here to moan mine and A's lost but it sure taught us to be so so supportive of each other.
We never talked about it, yet deep inside, whenever we chanced across a pregnant lady or a father carrying his baby, sometimes i do see the yearn in A's face and it kills me more than anything.

Yes, i had a misscarriage last June.
I was bleeding so much at work i thought i was going to pass out. But right there and then, i knew i lost the baby.

Was it painful. Yes.
Was it expected. No.
Did it hurt. More than anything.

I never really talked about it neither did i push it away. I guess i wasnt ready and part of me feels so so ashamed.
Not to my mum, not even my aunts or nenek.
Did had this conversation with Siti and Baby but thats it.

People do not seem to understand when they say its ok because obviously, it is not.
I remembered trying so hard not to cry every night to sleep because i didnt want A to know how much damage it costs me. At the same time, i didnt want to make him feel any less. Of course i played an open facade and overtime, it gets better.

I dont know you readers on whats your take on misscarriage but to me, its not only about loosing your baby, it is also a death. I believe every baby should have a chance to take their first steps.  And it kills me even typing this but ey, i am ok now and i am sure, insya allah, one day, me and A will be blessed with a baby of our own.

I didnt get to see your face, hold your tiny fingers or have you wrap around my arms, but at least i had you, even if it was for a short while.

Sunday 11 January 2015

#projekrumahAidilxxDya

I am actually very bored whilst waiting for A to finish work later for our date night and also accompanying him watch his 12am man u game.

Spring cleaned our room, figuring it would take me at least 4hrs, but i got tired in between so i made do with just changing the bedsheets and sapu n mop la.

So as you can see from the title of this post. Projek rumah!

Excited lah. Who wouldnt be. First time home owners. Tu pun ade jugak org yg ckp kite ni action dpt rumah pun nak kasi satu dunia tahu. I have to control myself from swearing out loud but really, nothing is a competition and we should all be happy for each other.
So just take a second and say alhamdulillah for all the things we have now, because it is nothing, but a loan.
So pls stop all this nonsense. Lets all be happy ok?

I actually wanted to share with you guys on my journey with A towards getting that key for our new home. Which! Is tmr btw.!!!!

See, i am lucky to actually have my mum, who is a single mum btw to own a house of her own so i didnt really had a rush to buy a house or move out persay.

So when we decided to just give it a shot to apply for the HLE loan last march, we were pretty suprised that that amount was in so much comparison to was before in 2009. See the amount that was approved for us back in 09 was 147,000. Yes, THAT. Which wasnt even enough to buy us a 3room flat. Partly because both of us just changed to a new job and though our salary was above 3, HDB didnt care of course. They rely much on the consistency of monthly contributions for at least 6mnths-1yr. 

Thus when we tried a second time last March 2014, we were in disbelief that the approved loan was actually 480,000.
And lucky enough for us, A had a friend back in brunei who is a property agent and his profile is amazinggg.

Back and forth, we suddenly found ourselves going for viewings. We went for a total of 15houses and we actually fell in love with the last one. We werent actually attracted to the design or what was present during the viewing. When i go into the house, what i see is what i could visualive my house to be. So i fell in love instantly. It was a good aura.

So back to the house. We will be getting our keys tmr. It wasnt a long wait as we only started our search in june and unlike other couples who are moving in right after, sadly we are not!!! Boohoo. But its ok. Always an investment like A says. It will be worth the wait.
So which is why #projekrumahAidilxxDya will kick start right about now. I will be sharing with you guys my journey to having and building my dream home, just like how I did during my wedding. It will only be about cost saving ideas and knickknacks, and DIY of course! Im all about that. Bukan Im all about that bass eh. No treble.

So speaking of earlier that i was gonna do spring cleaning right? I had to post it.

HOW ON EARTH DOES AIDIL HAS MORE CLOTHES THEN ME?

Ni tak jadi.

Next trip due in March

You know.

Me n A make it a pact that we have to go on short trips every 3months since after we got married. And it seems to happen diligently.
More so, we will always have somewhere to go and something to shop or a new thing to do. Prolly just reasons to leave SG no?

See, its not about wasting money or saving it for low times. We dont really spend that much on a trip. We really are budget travellers and im proud to say that we always always make it work.

See for example, our recent bangkok trip cost us 700 for flight, accomodation, and shopping. N bear in mind this includes his 18set of jerseys which he hauled for his soccer team. What soccer team? God dont make me start on that.

And even with that budget, i didnt feel like i had to curb my apetite or witheld from purchasing smtg that i really love. I basically bought what i wanted.

Which brings me to this, travelling. I Love love to travel. But for now, me and A are probably hitting more to cities in Asia because there is sooo much to see and do.

We have vietnam and cambodia in mind for our next trip in March and A is currently doing what he does best, researching for cheap flights and deals. No we are not cheap, we are prolly smarter. Yes we are.

Cause you know, if you wanna travel like the rich and famous and travel in style, you do it all the way yes? Sikit sikit cam tak payah la kan. So yes we are very much budget travellers and trust me, we always have loads of fun travelling with each other.

Travelling after being married sure brings a whole meaning of maturity i must say. For a start, A is a heavy packer whereas i pack so light i would usually end up wearing A's clothes, and this happens all the time.

And he LOVES to research and really dig all holes to find whatever he needs and wants to, which really, i dont have an interest on.
So i will always be surprised to see him bring along like 17pages of research stuffs on where to eat and where to shop and where to walk. Amazing man you. And on the other hand, i will complain and complain about walking too much, or eating too little or shopping for same stuff.
But deep inside i just want to jump on him like a koala bear and kiss him all over for being so thoughtful and clever to sort all that out, because i wouldnt, nope.

So, yes. I would suggest couples out there to always make a plan to travel with each other every few months or so. Dekat dekat pun jadilah. You know i do realise in this time and age, We all get to worked up on our daily lives that sometimes, a 4days trip somewhere out really gives us a chance to rekindle our love for our partner. Never stop dating each other. Never stop fighting for each other and never stop making effort for each other.  Sometimes time is all one need. And i promise A that no matter how busy i get, i will always always have time for him. He is afterall my big baby. Ok meluat. Bye!

Saturday 10 January 2015

I am back!

Hi all! I have just realised that my blog had over 29,000 readers thus far and wow, just wow. So well initially this was just going to be a wedding blog where i could rant what nots for the wedding preps and such. But ey, since this is already up, i might as well use this as a platform for everything and anything else.

For a start, i am still enjoying being married to the love of my life. Marriage has definitely made me more grown up, you know what i mean la kan. It has been a roller coaster ride as well, will share more in another post. In e meantime, i do hope to get my readers back!

See ya'll soon, much love!